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As parents, we must accept that we carry wounds and scars, both consciously and unconsciously. Striving for meaningful change while parenting is a process. It often feels uncomfortable, but we must summon the courage to confront the monsters that emerge from limiting beliefs. The journey toward meaningful change begins when we recognise these triggers in our parenting. The best part is, identifying points at which the triggers show up.

As most things go with parenting, the physical attachment we have with our children, in infancy, must evolve to an emotional bond; finally evolving to a psychological attachment. We need to be their safest emotional-cushion to land on when they struggle to process something that is going on in their peer-world. We need to model language and behaviour that fosters internal approval rather than comparison.

Perfect. Perfectionist. Perfectionism. Words we often use without realising the scars they leave behind. The sad truth is that many of us who struggle with these concepts began forming their roots in childhood. We were constantly trying to meet the expectations of the adults around us—figuring out what they needed, what made them criticise us, what we did that was inadequate, and what about us was unacceptable.